When it Comes to Your Wedding, What’s Too Much Money?

I’ve had a complex around spending money my whole life. I’ve felt guilty doing it, like I didn’t deserve it, or like I was being waaaaay too extra.

It’s only in recent years that I’ve realized spending money on myself is an act of reaffirming that I deserve nice things and experiences just as much as the next gal. That I am worthy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not flying around the world on private jet (yet). But ordering the 9oz glass of the nice Shiraz instead of the 6oz, or treating myself to a well made leather jacket isn’t going to break my bank account. My anxiety around spending money has gone down.

But when it comes to money and wedding planning, it’s a whole other thing!

When you’re planning a wedding, guilt around money gets amplified, like, about a million times over.

That veil is how much? Sorry, what did you say was the final tally for the hors d’oeuvres?

It comes down to one thing: VALUE.

I was looking into a potential rain plan for the ceremony if we get some bad weather. A tent! Prefect idea, right? Um, no. To use a tent for a 30 minute ceremony, I got a quote for $4500. Seriously?! That’s simply a bad value in my books.

It’s not that I don’t have the $4500. But think about how much more value I’d get if I invested that money in a wedding planner, getting a beautiful hotel suite, or creating a lovely rehearsal dinner for my bridal party.

For me personally, it’s all about the experience. I couldn’t justify breaking the bank for a dress I’m only going to wear once. But upgrading the wine list? Hell yaaaaaaaaas, sign me up.

Your budget could be $10,000 or $100,000. Spend money on things that you get value from, and that make you feel good, beautiful, and more in love.

Everyone defines what’s valuable to them in their own way. Figure out what’s important to you, spend the appropriate dollars, and DON’T feel guilty about it. Money and wedding planning doesn’t have to be a nightmare.